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So I get this call

This old friend of mine calls and needs a place to stay for a couple of weeks,I ask whats going on? well he just got out of prison for veh manslaughter (WHAT) this is the guy that introd me to my wife
I can't belive that he drove drunk and killed someone I have little ones at home and he knows this, what in the F is he calling me for? I haven't talked to you in 3 years,I know why now
I more or less but more blew him off. I didn't know what to say at the time I was so shocked.At this point I can't see myself talking to him any more. Is that wrong of me,all iI can think of is what a FN douch for what he did to the victums family's and especialy the friend he killed in his car and the por guy on the other side of the road

after talking to my wife she reminded me that I have guns in the house and parolee can't be around guns NRA all the way

You have to look out for you and your family first and foremost. He should expect to run into many block walls.
You're doing the right thing.

Tough spot! People make mistakes..... If your not comfy having someone stay that is within your right too. Your house, your call.

Hardest part of getting out of the joint is finding friends that will give you a secure place to stay to start to rebuilding your life. I'm sure he had plenty of time to think about what he has done....
See if you can find a half way house near by , this will give him a place to stay, and maybe the support you give him will help him become a "good citizen "again.
Without friends from the outside to help him out, he'll turn back to other xcons, and that will lead him back to the joint.
It's your call "BRO"..........good luck........

Originally Posted by slowinhavasu

Hardest part of getting out of the joint is finding friends that will give you a secure place to stay to start to rebuilding your life. I'm sure he had plenty of time to think about what he has done....
See if you can find a half way house near by , this will give him a place to stay, and maybe the support you give him will help him become a "good citizen "again.
Without friends from the outside to help him out, he'll turn back to other xcons, and that will lead him back to the joint.
It's your call "BRO"..........good luck........

I was tryn to think of other ways to help him out I looked through the local paper for rooms for rent thinkn that way. But it's hard for me to let him in my house.

Originally Posted by sintax

yea, thats a hard spot. I guess you kinda gotta look at it from his end. How hard do you think it was for him to make that call, own up to his mistakes and ask you as a friend for a hand. I cant imagine a much lower place in someones life then walking out of prison.

I dont know about you, but there are a handful of people in this world that i'd do anything for, and if one of these guys came to me i'd take care of them for sure, be it a place to stay while they get on their feet, or to burry a body.

I guess it all boils down to the fact you obviously have to look out for your family and self first, but if he introduced you to your wife, it sounds like you really owe this guy a lot. (or maybe you should smack him a couple, depending on if you like the wife) Just kinda putting myself into his shoes, it does seem like you are being quite a fair-weather friend. If he was a true bro, i'd take care of him. Karma has a funny way of working man.

great point too. I do owe him alot for the family I have but at what cost
and I do aknowledge it did take alot to call me

Originally Posted by sintax

before going to prison, say had a string of bad luck, lost his job, car, house, wife or gf. And he was out on the street, would you have welcomed him into your house? I'm wondering if he was a bad person before or something?

he is a nice guy
had a job has a gf has a house in the mountains but the peoples family lives close by and court sayin new law can't live within 30 miles of victims family ? it sounds wierd to me about not being able to live in your home