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I think they are being too generous... :D


This was on my msn home page... :p

You Cheated on Him … Now What?
You did the unthinkable and fooled around behind your boyfriend's back. Should you confess? Keep it a secret? Find out how to deal when you stray.


You may really dig your beau, but admit it, occasionally, when a good-looking man crosses your path, you wonder what it might be like to get together. And these days, more and more women are caving in to the cheating impulse. "With the rising number of women in the workforce and on the Net, the opportunities to stray are increasing," says psychologist Marcella Bakur Weiner, Ph.D., author of Cheaters.

But whether it's a kiss or the full monty, oftentimes the subsequent guilt is hard to shake. Fret not. We'll help you handle the aftermath of your infidelity.

Don't Blab
Your mother may have told you that honesty is the best policy, but in this case, many experts advise keeping your mouth shut. "If it really was just one indiscretion, don't tell him," says Weiner. "Although it might make you feel better, it will only hurt him and ruin the trust between you." Even if the guilt is killing you, let it be your burden to bear. And don't tell other people either or you increase the possibility of his finding out.

Examine Your Motives
When a woman cheats, even just once, there's usually a problem in her relationship. "Women often stray if their sex lives are stagnant or they're feeling neglected," says Ruth Houston, author of Is He Cheating on You? "The other man fulfills something that her current guy isn't giving her."

If the love is worth salvaging, you have to fix the problem or the issues will fester. "Ask yourself why you did it," advises Weiner. "Then let your boyfriend know what you need from him." But still, do not confess.

Of course, the relationship could already be dead in the water. "You may just be too lazy or scared to address the issues," Houston points out. "So you sleep with someone else, trying to sabotage it, even if only subconsciously." Or you just want to see what else is out there before doing anything drastic. But do yourself (and your boyfriend) a favor: Cut the cord.

What If He Finds Out?
Even if you've covered your tracks, your man could discover your indiscretion. Assuming you still want to be with him, your best bet is to say how sorry you are, swear it'll never happen again, and beg for his forgiveness.

Now is not the time to get into the reasons why you did it. "Wait a couple weeks before airing your grievances," says Weiner. "He needs time to process the betrayal without being confronted with the mistakes he's made."

Finally, being cheated on can do a number on a person's self-esteem, so you have to stroke the poor boy's ego. Regardless, he will be pissed and might need space. If so, leave him alone until, fingers crossed, he forgives you.

Born to betray: Some women could be hard-wired to cheat. A study done on female twins at St. Thomas's Hospital in London suggests that one in five women may carry a genetic "cheating" trait.
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My experience is that it is more like 9 out of ten.:|err
 

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I know a few women on here cheating on the better halfs
 

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I dont trust any of them! I think they will never be happy with what they have. Grass is always greener right! That has been a problem though. I have learned my views sometimes only push them away and make them want to cheat. My last girl told me she loved me, but if she was ever attracted to somebody else she would have to leave me. She tried to say that there is no way to be happy with someone if your attracted to someone else. BS, there is always going to be attraction outside of relationships. But girls say things like that to try and not feel guilty about doing the wrong thing all the time! Just my angry opinion:mad:
 

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I dont trust any of them! I think they will never be happy with what they have. Grass is always greener right! That has been a problem though. I have learned my views sometimes only push them away and make them want to cheat. My last girl told me she loved me, but if she was ever attracted to somebody else she would have to leave me. She tried to say that there is no way to be happy with someone if your attracted to someone else. BS, there is always going to be attraction outside of relationships. But girls say things like that to try and not feel guilty about doing the wrong thing all the time! Just my angry opinion:mad:
A chick always leaves a relationship emotionally long before physically... Odds are they are banging someone else before they walk out. You can "tell" when it's going on too...
Also, if you are with a chick that is "interested" in someone else or attracted to someone else, I would check out of that relationship immediately... because I know firsthand what these bitches do behind their guy's backs...
If you try and stick it out, work it out, you will lose them forever because they will look at you as a pussy instead of a man. You walk away, don't look back, treat em like the low life sluts they are, and you'll have them forever, even if it's between their own pathetic relationships they fall in and out of, they will always come back at least temporarily. Rack up enough bitches like that and eventually you don't even have to go look for it anymore... The only thing these relationships lack is love, but who the fukk needs a worthless investment like that because it dies eventually anyway.
 

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Ratso! I totally agree! thats why the bitch I was talking about is sitting way back in my wake! I tried, and did everything. everything I did only gave her another chance to pull further away and see how far I would go for her. She is long and gone! I learned alot from being with her and what to look out for next time. Ritch bitches with guy friend's, who need constant self esteem boost's will never be in my life again. Life is about growing up. So I more or less needed this to teach me what a good chick is.
 

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Ratso! I totally agree! thats why the bitch I was talking about is sitting way back in my wake! I tried, and did everything. everything I did only gave her another chance to pull further away and see how far I would go for her. She is long and gone! I learned alot from being with her and what to look out for next time. Ritch bitches with guy friend's, who need constant self esteem boost's will never be in my life again. Life is about growing up. So I more or less needed this to teach me what a good chick is.
Live it and learn it man... it's the only way. The ones that don't get it, well you can talk to them til you're blue in the face, and most of the time they aren't going to listen anyway. All you can do is sit back and watch them self destruct while their bitch fukks everything in town...
 

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Live it and learn it man... it's the only way. The ones that don't get it, well you can talk to them til you're blue in the face, and most of the time they aren't going to listen anyway. All you can do is sit back and watch them self destruct while their bitch fukks everything in town...

Oh this is so true, we are watching it now
 

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It must run in the famliy. My X cheated on the three husbands she has had...going on #4. (I was #2) Her sister cheated on her husband and so did her brother on his wife. I think they all got it from their mom. I always said it must run in the family! :)bulb

I always kick myself in the ass for getting rid of the dumb girlfriend I had and marrying the smart one! ;)
 
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